Teenagers are the most difficult to handle. The age is filled with rebellious and flamboyant characteristics. It becomes a handful for fathers and mothers alike to handle teenagers. When your kid is in his teens, he/she starts developing their own independent perspective. This perspective seems right to most of the teens. They feel everything they are doing is for the right cause. Situations like this can be a little dicey in handling. Fathers have a big role to play in such context.
Fathers tend to be the most aggressive as compared to the mothers. We can see in our day to day life that most of the fights at home are because of the fathers and teenage children. Therefore it is important for the fathers to device an idea where in both the father and the teenagers are in the same place to discuss. Here are some effective ideas for you to deal with teenager’s discipline.
Here are some of the effective ideas for fathers who can implement them in their day to day life to discipline their teenage kids.
Let Nature Take its Course – Everyone passes through the phase of teenage life. This experience should be shared with the next generation in a positive way. Not everyone has the perfect teenage life. Fathers should be a little considerate with their children when they are going through so many physical and mental changes. Nature has planned its unique course of teaching the children. There is nothing philosophical in this but it’s rather practical. As a father, you need to protect them, guide them in the right path whenever necessary. Remember that grounding your child is not always the right option. This may backfire some times by making your child more rebellious.
Establish Rules – Rules are one of the most important aspects of habit formation. When there are a set of rules to follow, teenagers will eventually understand the importance of being disciplined in life. You should make practical consequences for breaking the rules at home. If you teenager has broken a rule then the consequence should be related to the rule itself. For instance your teenager has not come home in time after meeting friends. Then ground him from meeting his friends for the next 2 weeks.
Explain What Grounding Means - Always explain your teenagers. Interaction with your teenagers will help them in understanding the necessity of discipline. Explain the kid why he is getting grounded or what he will learn when he is grounded. This part of the explanation is always good to do it prior some mistake he actually does. This way you can discipline your child as well as have a good rapport with you.
Do not Punish him too Long – Grounding your teenager for too long is not the right option. This most of the time backfires and make the teenager more rebellious. Instead ground him for short periods and make him understand that this is not good for him. Over the period of time as he keeps committing mistakes he will understand and start to behave responsibly. There should always be a positive interaction between father and the teenager. Therefore it is important to understand the necessity of grounding.
Let them Earn What they Want – Do not pamper them just because they are teenagers. Don’t let them take you for granted and get a feeling that they can demand whatever they want. It is important that they earn whatever they want. They should understand the value of things. By making them work hard to achieve what they want, you are imbibing the quality of hard working nature and explaining him the necessity of discipline. These are two main aspects of having a successful life in the future.